Change

Five Short Chapters on Change


by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown

Chapter 1.I walk down a street and there's a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. It takes forever to get out. It's my fault.



Chapter 2.I walk down the same street. I fall in the hole again. It still takes a long time to get out. It's not my fault.



Chapter 3. I walk down the same street. I fall in the hole again. It's becoming a habit. It is my fault. I get out immediately.



Chapter 4. I walk down the same street and see the deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.



Chapter 5. I walk down a different street.




What is this all about?




Chapter 1
Here you are going about your day. Perhaps you are distracted. You are not watching where you are going physically and mentally. You fall into something physical or mental (a mindset.) Since you weren't thinking or looking it takes you a while to get out of this place or mess. You blame yourself for not paying attention.




Chapter 2
Oh no. You did not learn from your mistake and you did the same thing again. However, this time it was not your fault. Something got in your way and tripped you up. (again)




Chapter 3
Same old same old. You keep going down that same street but you still did not learn there is a hole there. You are now developing a habit of going somewhere you know will trip you up. You fall and you now know that you are responsible for not acknowledging the hole. You get out of it easily this time. You have learned how to get out of the mess but you still have not learned how to avoid the mess.




Chapter 4
Progress. You now know there is a hole. You avoid it but.... you are still going down that same avenue. You are still taking the long way and maybe the wrong way to get to where you want to go.




Chapter 5 Enlightenment, Consciousness. You have finally learned to choose a different path.




Is this you? Are you an obstinate learner? You do not have to be. Skip steps 2 through 4 and jump ahead to step 5. It is easy and you can do it. Here is how.




Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

Sweet Dreams

Grow Great by Dreams by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown

The question was once asked of a highly successful businessman: "How have you done so much in your lifetime?"
He replied, "I have dreamed. I have turned my mind loose to imagine what I wanted to do. Then I have gone to bed and thought about my dreams. In the night I dreamt about my dreams. And when I awoke in the morning, I saw the way to make my dreams real.

While other people were saying, 'You can't do that, it isn't possible,' I was well on my way to achieving what I wanted." As Woodrow Wilson, 28th President of the U.S., said: "We grow great by dreams. All big men are dreamers."

They see things in the soft haze of a spring day, or in the red fire on a long winter's evening. Some of us let these great dreams die, but others nourish and protect them; nourish them through bad days until they bring them to the sunshine and light which comes always to those who sincerely hope that their dreams will come true."

So please, don't let anyone steal your dreams, or try to tell you they are too impossible.

"Sing your song, dream your dreams, hope your hope and pray your prayer."
Thomas Edison tried two thousand different materials in search of a filament for the light bulb. When none worked satisfactorily, his assistant complained, "All our work is in vain. We have learned nothing."

Edison replied very confidently, "Oh, we have come a long way and we have learned a lot. We now that there are two thousand elements which we cannot use to make a good light bulb."

What do you dream of? Many of us have put our dreams aside. We have put our dreams aside because life inteferred. Our focus has moved from day to day survival and just getting through the day. Some of us were chastized for having dreams. Dreams are impractical. We were told to grow up. Some of us have put aside our dreams for a later date.

What dreams can you go back to and re incorporate into your life? Is there a difference between a goal and a dream? Are your dreams day dreams? Perhaps your dreams are temporary escapes into a world you believe you will not inhabit.

Perhaps it is time to re visit your dreams. Perhaps it is time to share these dreams with yourself and someone special that can support your dreams. Perhaps it is time for you to support yourself in seeking your dreams.

Visit my website and see what's there to help you re claim your dreams.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

Desire

"The starting point of all achievement is desire. Weak desire brings weak results."*Napoleon Hill

To desire is to wish for; to crave; to aspire to; to long for.

Desire is a hot emotion. It is a strong emotion. It is one of those emotions that you can drive you nuts. It can also be a strong motivator to get what you want. How many times have you achieved something becasuse you desired it? Was it easy to get what you desired? Probably easier to get what you desired than something you wanted to or needed.

Desire can get you moving. Desire can also help you separate what you really want and what you think you want.

How in touch are you with yourself? Can you differentiate what you desire from your other wants? Can you use desire to get you what you want?

Here are some quotes about "Desire"

Napoleon Hill

Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.

Denis Waitley

Out of need springs desire, and out of desire springs the energy and the will to win.

Claude M. Bristol

One essential to success is that your desire be an all obsessing one, your thoughts and aims be co-ordinated, and your energy be concentrated and applied without letup.

Christian Nevell Bovee

We trifle when we assign limits to our desires, since nature hath set none.

James Allen

To desire is to obtain; to aspire is to achieve.

Bobby Unser

Desire! That's the one secret of every man's career. Not education. Not being born with hidden talents. Desire.

Eric Hoffer

It sometimes seems that intense desire creates not only its own opportunities, but its own talents.

William James

If you care enough for a result, you will most certainly attain it.

Paul Vernon Buser

Desire, like the atom, is explosive with creative force.

Raymond Hollingwell

Desire creates the power.

As you can see there are a variety of takes on desire. What does it mean to you and how is it incorporated into your life? What do you desire? Let me know.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

Disappointments

How Do You Handle Disappointments?


I asked the question, "How do you deal with disappointments?"
I got a couple of different answers. I think they are all interesting takes on how to deal with disappointments.

I think that we will all experience disappointments. I do not think they are avoidable. I think that how we handle them is what is important. I also think we can learn from our disappointments. Sometimes they are a wake up call. Sometimes they are strong motivators. Clearly they are on our minds because these answers are definitive. Each one is a well concieved plan on how to handle disappointments. Kind of like there is a definitve approach to take.

In all the answers no one talked about feeling lost, hurt, lonely and sad.

That is what seems to be missing from these answers. Feelings are missing from these answers. I am a believer in experiencing your feelings and not stuffing them with actions. So the next time you are disappointed experience what that feels like. Don't avoid the feeling. Just move through it. Cry or scream if you need to. Once you have acknowledged how you feel then check out some of these suggestions. Let me know how you feel and deal with your disappointments.

• Make it happen. If it's not something over which you have control, then let it go. Don't let your happiness rely upon something that someone else has direct control.




• If you are disappointed it's your fault and you need to work on it. It's your responsibility to make it work for you




• It depends on the scale of disappointment, but usually I'll just move on. If it's something bigger, then I might think of something special to get or do, which will cheer me up and make me forget the disappointment, at least temporarily.




• There are no disappointments. When things don't happen the way you wanted them to, it's because you didn't set the right stage. So I think the problem here is to work on your setting rather to be depressed. And the outcome will always be in your favor. That's the way it works.




• disappointments are blessings in disguise---everything happens for a reason.




• try not to expect anything out of things or people If you expect nothing it's better to be pleasantly surprised rather than be angry or upset when something "lets you down". This goes for things or people.




• I would find another way to make it happen. I don't obsess I keep on trying. Success means getting up one more time is my motto.




• I just try to accept the fact that is simply isn't for me. I truly believe in God.. so if it were suppose to happen it will cause God has planed it for me ... If not then there is a solid reason.




• For me, I just try not to get my hopes up. If you have low expectations...then there won't be much of a let down right?

Let me know how you deal with your disappointments.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

PS Check out my website and see if there is some thing that can be of value to you.

What is Your Life About?

For so many of us life is about getting by, making it through the day, surviving. It is like we are on a treadmill. We are putting in the effort, doing the work, trying our best but we never seem to get anywhere. Even when we see progress it is short lived. It is a momentary high we experience only to be jolted back to our reality. This one beam of sunshine is overshadowed by all our other problems and struggles.





This is the plight of your life at the present. But there is the future. And before you know it the future becomes the present. What if you could intervene in your future and create a new present? What if this new present was not drudgery and getitng by? What if this new present was one of getting what you wanted?





There is a way for this to happen to you. It won't be instantaneous. Sorry to be the bearer of that piece of information. I am not going to be disingenuous with you. When I look back at my accomplishments I had to work and struggle for them. Kind of like what you are doing right now except you don't get the rewards for what you are doing.





So why not do something that will give you the rewards? If you skeptical then keep doing what you are doing but.... add something to that. Do what you are doing plus something else.





Start a new project that will alter your future. Devise a plan and allocate time to this project.





Over time I will share with you some ideas and products that will put you on the path to altering your future. For now I just want this to soak in and let you get into a new mind set. I want you to invision getting off the treamill. I want you to envision putting some joy back into your life. I want you to envision getting the rewards you deserve.





Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

PS If you are in a hurry then check out some of my past posts.

Ewen Chia and Me

I am an honest person. So I have to admit that I do not know Ewen Chia nor does he know me. I've seen his photo and he is kind of cute. But I am not here to discuss his looks. Rather I want to talk about one of his products Auto Pilot Profits.

I am intrigued by the internet. I am also intrigued by money. I'd like to say I don't want it but I do need it. I love to travel and that is where if I had more money I would be extravagant. Of course I like to eat and look nice and I need to pay for somewhere to live. I also like cable TV and music and shows and eating out (on occasion) and all these things require money.

You get the picture and know what I mean. It seems that essentials are expensive. The extravagances are sometimes out of reach. That is why I was interested in Ewen Chia's Auto Pilot Profits. I need money for the essentials as well as the extras. I also like to work for myself. Me and the boss don't always click.

Before I got Auto Pilot Profits I read a review. This review promised to discuss the product and include the pros and cons. The review convinced me to get the product. See for yourself.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach

PS When you get the prodcut let me know how it works for you.

DVD TO IPOD

Hey, that is not me. That is a logo for a really exciting product I discovered. Here's the scoop. I know you and your IPOD are best buds. You probably go everywhere together. Your IPOD had your fav tunes. But what about your fav DVD's? I bet you bought a lot of those boxed TV show DVD sets. You know the ones that have a whole season of your favorite TV show.

How would you like to watch those on your IPOD? This software product will easily transfer your DVD's to your IPOD for your viewing pleasure. Now you will be royally entertained anywhere. Anywhere your IPOD goes your entertainment goes also.

Check it out here.

Marcia, Your Confidence Coach